Building Your Alter Ego

YOUR SECOND NAME, YOUR FIRST LINE OF DEFENSE

To come up with a new name, an older, popular strategy is to pick your porn name, which usually involves something like your first name being your favorite pet and your last name the street you grew up on. Other strategies involve the multitude of name generators available online or simply choosing one that you have used in the past. You may prefer to use your real name and a fake last, or go the "diva" route and only have one name (real or fake). Either way, numerous online name generators can help you create a name that reflects your personality and protects your legal identity from those who might be too curious about your professional life.

You already use your legal name in your day-to-day life. Those who refer to you by this name will seem more personable, more relatable, more connected. Likewise, those you refer to by their name will see you as a closer acquaintance at the very least. In either case, a name can help reinforce one's sense of self.

When you don your alter ego, those who refer to you by your alter ego's name will help reinforce your alter ego's sense of self and will help you wear that mask with a little more confidence. When you begin exploring the outer fringes of acts you wouldn't normally consider, you can lean into your name to further separate your vanilla self from your sexual self.

DIGITAL BOUNDARIES: BUILDING A DIGITAL IDENTITY FOR YOUR PLAY CIRCLE

Email: While there are a ton of options to set up your email, one favorite is Google's Gmail. It's widely accessible across devices. In addition, it grants you access to numerous free services that will prove immensely helpful in establishing your digital playground.

Text: When you create a Google account (the Gmail step above), you can then use that same account to sign up for a Google Voice number. Google Voice has been around for over 15 years, providing its members with free text numbers from which others utilizing their own text numbers can contact you. A text number has many advantages over third-party services (such as social networks) because it is standard and already available to anyone with a phone. There is no need to sign up with a service and keep yet another username and password in a long list of credentials that must be remembered and entered.

Google Docs: Sharing documents with your play friends can be helpful from time to time. For example, suggesting talking topics is one way the husband or couple could help the nervous bull while contemplating the time and place for a date. Since the bull is unaware of her preferences, having a way to share this information helps ease his mind that the conversation will go well. In addition, this helps inform the bull on tangible dos and don'ts to help keep him from stepping into a pile of faux pas. Religion, politics, kids, and other hot buttons may be something that turns her off immediately, so listing those things ahead of time will help keep everyone's arousal level heightened!

Another way it could benefit you is to share a kink sheet (e.g., kinksheet.com). This describes the various things you are and aren't into to more clearly communicate it with others without repetitive conversations with new play partners.

3rd Party Services: Whenever signing up for social media networks or other services, an email is often required. In addition, a text number may also be needed. Utilizing Google's outstanding free services will help create a "play" domain and keep your professional life separate from your sexual lifestyle.

FRIENDSHIP FIREWALLS: MAINTAIN PRIVACY ACROSS YOUR SOCIAL LAYERS

Phone Privacy Mode: You'd be hard-pressed to find anyone walking around in public without a phone, and its contents say more about you than you ever could during a friendly conversation. To protect your identity, ensure that any "play" activity on your phone is kept away from the prying eyes of both marketing and search companies, as well as individuals who may be standing over your shoulder.

Amongst the phone manufacturers, nobody does this better out of the box than Samsung phones. You can use their built-in "Locked Folder" (also referred to as Knox, also referred to as "Secure Folder"). This feature not only keeps your photos separate and hidden, but it also keeps entire collections of apps separate and hidden. This gives you a private area all of its own, where you can text others, take pictures, and interact with your social media accounts separately from your vanilla accounts. You can log into services like Reddit with your work account, but within your locked folder, you use your play account. If your phone of choice doesn't offer this feature, you can find an app in your Play Store or App Store that can accomplish something similar.

Virtual Debit Card: Paying for goods and services is inevitable, even for something as simple as food at a restaurant. If you're hesitant to carry cash, having an alternative form of payment can help protect your anonymity from strangers you don't know well (yet).

Registering an LLC may be overkill for the casual hotwife couple or bull, but you may want to consider it if you're generating revenue from services like onlyfans.com. Registering as a sole proprietorship, LLC, or corporation and filing as a "Doing Business As" (DBA) trade name may allow that name to appear on your debit card rather than your own personal one. This keeps your legal identity off the table at restaurants or client dinners and remains compliant, so long as the DBA is appropriately registered and disclosed to the bank.

Some companies specialize in this, such as privacy.com (not sponsored). In most cases, grabbing some cash may be good enough to protect your identity during a typical date, but realize you may have other options in protecting your identity. For a complete framework on managing dual identities while staying safe and organized, The Real Hotwife & Cuckold Handbook covers these concepts in greater detail.