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Like most couples, our journey began awkwardly and rudderless, lacking clarity and direction, while exploring the confusing and mysterious world of ethical non-monogamy. Through research, exploration, and great communication, we've written books and created tools to help other couples and bulls live these sexual lifestyles to the mutual benefit of all involved.

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