Promoting Yourself As A Bull

FOCUS ON YOUR STRENGTHS, ENSURE YOUR PHOTOS MAKE THOSE OBVIOUS

When it comes to your various attributes, you are likely insecure or unhappy about one of them. Height, weight, face, fitness, salary, age, and especially cock size (because males fixate on that, whether you're a cuck, stag, or bull), all bulls are stronger in some areas and weaker in others.

These attributes are essential to your target audience initially. For example, nearly all women prefer a tall man, and even more want one who is at least as tall as they are. If she's tall already, she still prefers this, so you can imagine her conflicting feelings as she's hunting for a candidate. Even wives who have already had children and are done procreating will continue to prefer attributes that might help them have healthy offspring. Apps make it all too easy to encourage women to 'stick to their guns' and 'not settle', narrowing their pool of men down to an impossibly small pool of candidates.

In addition, many bulls who perfectly check all of the boxes tend to have low emotional intelligence and sexual skills, because things have been unfairly handed to them based on dumb luck. They haven't become good at trying hard, which makes them lazy and less skilled than their imperfect cohorts. After some experience, random encounters, and unlikely hookups, the couple will likely find it's the imperfect bulls that have turned out to be the best in bed. This revelation can come rather quickly, as the highly sought-after (usually younger) men are often unreliable, unskilled, and lack the mental fortitude to handle the lifestyle with class.

As a bull, you'll need to come to grips with your own insecurities so they don't get in your way. As imperfect as you may be, you have the potential to educate and train yourself in ways most males can't compete with. It's how you handle your insecurities that sets you apart from other bulls. Your commitment and the work you put into yourself will give you an unfair advantage in the dating market. That's why confidence isn't about arrogance or denial; it's about being comfortable in your own skin, being prepared, and having a plan.

DEFEAT THE NOISE WITH ORIGINALITY AND AUTHENTICITY

Unfortunately, you'll have to do some work to elevate your profile above the noise so that the couple can give you their undivided attention. You can achieve this by identifying some pain points that your target couple has likely experienced and demonstrating that you are different from them.

For example, many wives complain that the pretty boys are lousy conversationalists in person, and as we know, the dating and connection phase is just phase 1 of having sex. If that fails, you can bet the other phases probably will too (especially when the bull guarantees they "won't regret it"). Have a nice chat or two. If you feel that too much time is passing, consider recording a short video of yourself speaking, so they get an idea of what it would be like conversing with you. Your chances of her noticing you go up, and the chances of you meeting also rise. Interestingly, this will also deter those husbands who aren't serious about meeting and are probably just fantasizing with a keyboard.

YOUR PHOTOS NEED TO BE GOOD

Send them classy pictures of yourself that are actually good (no holding a dead animal, no rando selfies in the bathroom (gross)). Don't be bashful about recruiting a friend or someone's mom for help (you may make a connection accidentally!). If you don't know anyone in photography, check around Reddit for local photo subreddits and put a feeler out to see if you can be their talent.

For photos, dress a little nicer. Sure, it's more realistic to have you looking like a tourist if you're someplace new, but it's sexier to see you with a bit of shine. This largely depends on your style, but consider opting for a button-up shirt and dress shorts or slacks instead of casual wear. Obviously, highlight your features, but also make it look like your frame is one she'd enjoy sharing, at least for short periods. Don't neglect the hair. Guys, in general, have an unusually high tolerance for looking like a slob, so if you begin wondering if you're overdoing it, you've probably hit the mark. Get a variety of photos and think about (and do research for) common interests wives look for in a guy.

Traveling is a great option - a few of you in town at some interesting landmarks might be a good idea. I wouldn't worry about going anywhere expensive or exotic, especially if you have a photographer tagging along who will need to cover expenses.

Include some photos of you in restaurants. It's not very pleasant to see social media posts of people posting pictures of food, so please refrain from doing that. But having you seated with food (with the photographer across from you) will help the couple visualize what it will be like sitting across the table from you for dinner.

Feel free to include one with pets if you'd like, but save it for the end of your dating app collection. Pets are cute, but more often than not, she'll pay attention to them instead of you.

If you're with a photographer, you'll want to come up with a nice variety of settings before you even meet them. Do some research on what other bulls in your area are doing and steal their ideas.

DITCH ONLINE INTERACTIONS AS SOON AS HUMANLY PRACTICAL

The truth is, keeping the conversation online will work against you, and there may be no easy way to overcome it. If you keep your distance in an attempt not to bug them, they'll vanish in the sea of other fake bulls messaging them. If you communicate too much, you may come off as needy and annoying, which is the opposite of what you're going for.

Offer to meet them both soon and somewhere close (reduce the "friction" in meeting you as much as practical). If you're not getting anywhere, offer to meet with just the husband. This definitely weeds out the fakes and flakes (since the interaction becomes real) and may save you a lot of time. Also, if the husband approves, your chances with the wife will skyrocket. Plus, it's a nice example of how you can think ahead, how willing you are to meet the wife, and how confident you are suggesting it at all. This communicates that you can take care of her, so the husband can relax in the moment.

When it comes to conversations, the husband can really help here. He may have already worked up a list of dos and don'ts that he knows his wife prefers, and this can save you from wandering down a sticky rabbit hole. Even if he hasn't, there are some general guidelines you can use that will help you connect with her on a deeper level. Remember, at this point, you're already having sex with her by arousing her with interesting conversation and genuine interest.

The lifestyle questions usually are the first to ask:

• How long have you been in the lifestyle?
• Whose idea was it and how long did it take before you actually started, generally?
• Have you enjoyed how it has gone so far?

While these questions aren't specifically personal to her or them, they reveal some backstory on where they are coming from, and where they are possibly heading.

When it feels right, focus on her on a more personal level. Skip the résumé-style interview. Instead, ask questions that reveal some of her passions:

• What's something you've always wanted to do but haven't yet?
• If you could design your perfect day, what would it look like?
• What's something you're passionate about that most people don't know?

These questions show you're interested in who she is—not just what she does.

You don't need to be explicit to create tension. Emotional and intellectual arousal is just as powerful:

• Use sensory language: "That sounds like something that would feel amazing…" instead of "That sounds fun."
• Mirror her energy: If she's playful, match it. If she's reflective, lean in. Emotional attunement builds intimacy.
• Tease lightly: "You're trouble, aren't you?" said with a smile can spark flirtation.
• Ask about desire: "What's something you secretly wish someone would do for you?" (Keep it open-ended and respectful.)
• Compliment with specificity: "You have a way of describing things that makes me feel like I'm right there with you."

These techniques keep the conversation charged without crossing boundaries.