Bulls: Stop Googling Humiliation Ideas — Learn to Lead First

The Scenario

A current bull was recently asked to introduce humiliation into the couple's relationship. She asked it (but perhaps he asked her to bring it up). Either way, he asked for advice since he wasn't sure how to proceed. It's a couple that is working out well for him and he didn't want to ruin the relationship somehow.

What's Actually Happening

He's likely being asked to lead.

The word humiliation is used (and overused) mostly by cucks who want to feel that sense of loss and demotion in their otherwise satisfying and safe life. So as the bull, if your couple asks you to amp up the Dominance in your playtime so he can feel more humiliated, it can be very awkward and confusing to know how to proceed.

What I'd Suggest

Jumping straight to some degrading stuff you see online is probably not going to serve you well (sort of like benching 300+ pounds on your first day at the gym). If you think of this as a journey with levels and milestones, it becomes a little easier to visualize. So, sorry to gamify this a little, but ...

Level 1

Assert your authority over the space. Just direct him like some others have mentioned. Suggest at first, then you can slowly move to tell. Where does he sit, when he can and can't speak, perhaps sit in a particular spot until you let him know when he can help (or just move to a different position, etc.). It won't seem like that much at first, but gradually you'll get more confident (and creative) in how you interact.

Level 2

Control access and attention. Maybe warm things up just with her at first, then call him in when you feel like it. Play with both ignoring him as well as acknowledging him (just enough to remind everyone he's there). There's a certain contrast between being ignored and being noticed that can be more powerful than any explicit humiliation. He wants to be a voyeur, but also wants to feel that sense of demotion. Periods of ignoring him as well as periods of brief acknowledgement work well for this.

Level 3

Use her as a tool to interact with him. This part can be pretty powerful. It's one thing to hear something from you, but hearing her say something can take on a new meaning. Tell her what to say, tell her to kiss him and then come back to you. Have her tell him what she wants you to do to her. Lead them both and the power dynamic will begin breathing on its own.

One note about chastity (because it usually comes up with cuckolds) - Most cucks are either into it or not. Some tolerate wearing it a really long time, while others ... a few hours or overnight is plenty. If you want him to try it, have him wear it while you pleasure her and then let him take it off before you leave. Most guys will tolerate that short of a time period fine. Also, the fact that he can't play with himself while you're there can have several benefits, all of which are likely good for you. If you're not sure how to mention it, slip into a lowkey friend mode and casually drop the statement, "hey man, do you think she'd find it hot if you wore your cage while we played?". His answer tells you everything about how to proceed.

The Takeaway

Anyway, forget the scripts, just lead the scene and let things develop on their own.

Direct -> control -> deny -> demote

Get comfortable with each before moving on. Remember to have fun and be selfish. The more you get out of it, the more they probably will too!