Ferris Andrews
I'm having trouble finding good-looking and hung bulls online. Which apps do you use?
The more focused, obscure apps can offer fewer candidates, but those candidates have a lot more potential. They are more likely to lead to a meaningful conversation, perhaps more likely to show up for a meeting, etc. The extreme version of this is meeting someone in person. This is the OG, the "specialized" strategy that has yielded far fewer results but with a dramatically higher chance of success. Even if you're in a bar, the optionality is nearly zero in comparison to apps that can present a hundred candidates at a time. There may be only three or four candidates in the middle of a crowded room, but the likelihood that you'll meet them is nearly 100% - and your ability to gauge attraction is nearly that high. Nothing beats in-person meet-and-greets despite the low number of potential candidates, because ... the process is immediate; you involve all of your other senses in your evaluation, and if you'd like something to happen, it can happen very soon after meeting.
Specialized and niche apps simulate this situation, but online. You'll still meet a lot of fakes and flakes because this process is online, but your chances of finding someone who is intentionally seeking someone in your dynamic are far higher—a hotwife, cuckold, poly, general BDSM, etc. You're not having to share space with a wider variety of singles looking for a wide range of dynamics if you're on an app that is specifically meant to call out what you're into. That barrier is already overcome.
Given that, I would look at Feeld or Kasidie to find a partner, and Fetlife to stay in contact with your play community. Trends come and go, and your mileage can (and will) vary. If there were one perfect app everyone was gravitating to, you'd already know about it.
For bulls and even Doms, I would double down on this advice. Since many of your fellow "alphas" will not think or know about these spaces, your presence can prove a significant advantage. If you're looking for a sub or really want to Dom the husband while fucking his wife, ethical non-monogamy apps are the way to go. Everyone's expectations are (hopefully) spelled out clearly, so you can focus on the chemistry and not so much on the details.
If you're a couple going for a "cheating" scenario, something more traditional like Tinder may be a better bet.
Some hotwife/cuckold couples find more success in finding her bulls when she pretends that she is cheating, rather than being involved in an ethically non-monogamous relationship. This ruse can alleviate the awkwardness that can arise when her candidate finds out the husband is in the picture and gives his blessing. This will no doubt seem strange to the uninitiated. After all, with the husband's approval, the reduced drama and danger of him finding out should make the situation more straightforward. Sometimes it does, but for some candidates, knowing the husband is okay with the situation actually makes him back down (often right after he says he's okay with it). A "cheating" dynamic is immediately understood and also perceived to be safer since, in theory, she also has something to lose if word gets out. A hotwife (and especially a cuckold) dynamic is fraught with confusing labels, misunderstandings, and distractions. For some couples, this simplifies an otherwise complicated and frustrating process. You'll need to decide for yourself if this is something you want to do.
The idea is to decide exactly who you are hunting for, then identify the app that is most likely to attract that kind of candidate. If you're looking for an experienced Dom, you're unlikely to find him on mainstream apps like Tinder. However, Fetlife is likely to have individuals who at least claim to be experienced and knowledgeable, without having to explain in detail what a Dom actually is.
Good luck!
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